Source: http://mitsloan.mit.edu/newsroom/articles/from-group-executive-coaching-4-big-lessons-in-teamwork/
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Assume good intentions, and develop trust
Mohr said he now approaches collaborations or conflicts with colleagues from a stance that they’re trying to help him and harbor good intentions. “In that way, I can be more open and work in a better way,” he said. “If they say something I don’t like, it’s because they really want to improve me.”
Enjoy the process, not just the progress
Li said she’s learned to take a step back before jumping into a project and trying to solve all the problems herself.
“It’s helped me relax more. It’s not just ‘Stare at the progress,’ it’s also enjoying the process,” she said. “To build relationships and try to learn about a person before jumping into the work. That’s the blind spot I used to have.”
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2) "Why you should be aware of something called the 'drama triangle' — a manipulative tactic narcissists use to keep you on your toes" by Lindsay Dodgson
Source: https://www.thisisinsider.com/drama-triangle-how-narcissists-use-it-to-manipulate-people-2018-10
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Narcissists simultaneously loathe others and crave their attention. How much attention they want depends on what type of narcissist they are: exhibitionist, closet, or toxic. But generally, if the spotlight is on them, they feel like they are winning.
In psychology there is something called the "drama triangle." It was developed by Stephen Karpman in the 60s, and it describes how people can play three roles: the victim, persecutor, and rescuer.
With a narcissist, they may flip between these three roles quickly and suddenly, meaning their victim never knows what to expect.
"You're always walking on eggshells, [so] you never know how to respond," Perpetua Neo, a psychologist who runs Detox Your Heart, told INSIDER. "So let's say they are playing the victim, and you're responding with empathy — they will flip to persecutor. So you know there's no way you can win, even if you're not playing to win, or you're not even playing."
One minute everything could be going fine, the next the victim might be on the receiving end of fierce narcissistic rage. But rather than trusting their gut that they did nothing wrong, they tend to try and explain away the narcissist's behaviour by blaming themselves.
This is often a result of the "love bombing" that happened at the beginning of the relationship. It's a manipulative tactic abusers use to suck in their targets where they shower them with affection, compliments, and gifts, and then they take it all away. The victim is left wondering what they did wrong, and focuses the blame internally.
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3) "How to Regain the Lost Art of Reflection" by Martin Reeves, Roselinde Torres, Fabien Hassan
Source: https://hbr.org/2017/09/how-to-regain-the-lost-art-of-reflection
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Yana Kakar, Global Managing Partner of Dalberg, reserves 3 two-hour blocks of time for reflection each week. She comments, “Thinking is the one thing you can’t outsource as a leader. Holding this time sacred in my schedule despite the deluge of calls, meetings, and emails is essential.”
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4) "18 Hard Things to Do If You Want to Be A Successful Leaders" by Lolly Daskal
Source: https://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/18-hard-things-to-do-if-you-want-to-be-a-successful-leaders.html
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8. You have to be able to rise above drama and dysfunction.
When everyone goes low, great leaders go high.
9. You have to be accountable for your actions and responsible for your behavior.
Being accountable as a leader means not only taking responsibility for what you do, but also being accountable for what you do not do.
10. You have to be transparent when you most want to be opaque.
If you're covering up your tracks or withholding the truth in any way, it's only a matter of time before the truth comes out. So be transparent: tell the truth, speak with candor and do it always. Being honest is the only way to be at peace with yourself and for others to respect you.
11. You have to trust before you can be trusted.
Trust is the bedrock of successful leadership. When trust is broken, it takes a long time and commitment on the part of both parties involved to mend it--that's why it's so much better to always be trustworthy.
15. You have to care about your character more than your reputation.
Your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others temporarily think you are. A genuinely good character is the hallmark of a successful leader who inspires others.
17. You have to lead when no one is else is following.
A successful leader will forge forward and create a path even if no one is following, because they know if it's compelling enough and meaningful enough, people will show up and they will follow.
18. You have to invest in yourself even though others may not.
To be a successful leader you have to invest in yourself. It's easy to think you can do it on your own, but the best leaders invest in themselves by hiring a great coach who can make them do what they don't want to do so they can become who they have always wanted to be.
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5) "Why Emotional Courage Is So Essential To Great Leadership" by Kathy Caprino
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Here’s an example - think about a difficult conversation you want to have with someone but you haven’t followed through on. Now consider why you haven’t followed through. I’m betting you know what you want to say. And that you’re skilled enough to have the conversation. And I imagine you’ve had - or could have created - opportunities to have the conversation. So why haven’t you followed through?
That’s where emotional courage comes in. There’s something you don’t want to feel. Maybe it’s the possibility of conflict. Or the other person’s defensiveness. Or their anger. Or your own anger or defensiveness. I’m not sure what it is that you might have to feel - but the risk of feeling it stops you. It stops all of us. That’s why emotional courage is so important to following through on what we care most about.
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6) Fast Feedback: Michael Bolton on Software Testing
Rapid Software Testing co-creator Michael Bolton, joins Tricentis’ Ingo Philipp to tackle some of the software testing community’s toughest questions and hottest debates. The discussed topics include Confirmation, Testing, Correctness, Verification, Standards, Breaking, Models, Coverage, Confusion, Discovery, Bug & Issues, Heuristics, Tools.
7) "The cloud wars explained: Amazon is dominating, but Microsoft and Google are striking back" by Matt Weinberger
8) "BDD is – BDD is not" by Augusto Evangelisti
9) "Is 'BDD' testing?" by Mark Winteringham
Source: https://www.hindsightsoftware.com/blog/is-bdd-testing-part-4
10) "High-performing teams? Do their leaders think differently?" by Roxana-Maria Grigore
Source: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/high-performing-teams-do-leaders-think-differently-grigore/
10) "High-performing teams? Do their leaders think differently?" by Roxana-Maria Grigore
Source: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/high-performing-teams-do-leaders-think-differently-grigore/
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